I was doing a bit of grocery shopping yesterday at the nearby Star Market. When I got to the dairy section, I noticed that they had Dannon coffee yogurt. This is often not available, so I decided to buy a few containers. The problem was that they were on the top shelf of the cooler section and the first row was pushed back. I couldn’t reach it. As I often do when something is out of reach, I ask for help from any shopper in the vicinity who is taller than I am (which is most people).
So, there was this somewhat tall man and his wife, and I cupped my hands saying “HELLO.” They turned around and I asked if they could help me get some Dannon coffee yogurt. “Of course,” the man said.
He came over and said, “Funny you should ask me because I used to be the area distribution manager for Dannon.” He went on to say that Dannon coffee yogurt was most popular in Massachusetts and Rhode Island.” I said, “I know because I grew up in Providence and coffee was the big flavor – especially coffee syrup.” He said, “Yes, there were two brands Eclipse and Autocrat, and that they were very similar but there was a slight, subtle difference.” I said that there were two sets of advocates – one for Eclipse and the other for Autocrat – and that we were on the Eclipse side.
He asked where in Providence I came from and I told him South Providence, south of downtown – Broad Street, Prairie Avenue. He knew it and asked what part of South Providence and I told him that when I grew up there was only ‘one’ South Providence. We talked a little about it now being an immigrant community as it was when I was growing up – only different immigrants.
He got me four yogurts and I asked his name. Joe, he said. I said I was Marian, we said goodbye, and we each headed for the checkout counter.
I love these random, amazingly coincidental encounters.
This one prompted me to learn more about why Rhode Island is stuck on coffee flavor. It turns out that the tradition stems from the arrival of Italian immigrants who brought their love of sweet coffee drinks to America. It is rumored that diner and drugstore owners began to make syrup out of leftover coffee grounds, maybe in the 1930s. The combination of coffee syrup and milk became the official Rhode Island drink in July 1993. But even before it was consecrated with this title, those of us who grew up in that state knew it was the drink of choice – far better than chocolate milk.
The whisked combination of coffee ice cream, coffee syrup, and milk – known as a ‘cabinet’ in R.I. or milkshake or frappe in other places such as Boston and New York – is also a big R.I. specialty. The best explanation I can find of why it is called a ‘cabinet’ is because the blending machine to mix ingredients together was kept in the cabinet.
Certainly, this little story does not cover everything there is to be said about coffee or any other thoughts generated from this vignette. It is really about wonderful, serendipitous encounters, understanding history, and sweet memories from the past.
I’m totally with you. Every expedition is an opportunity for a possible fascinating encounter which in turn gives you countless trips down rabbit holes. Life is endlessly interesting.
I love what you said! So very, true.
Charming vignette!
Interesting and beautifully depicted as always!
Love your delightful essays Marian🩷
Ellie, Thanks! These random encounters give me hope.
Loved your coffee vignette. These encounters are what makes a community and boy do we need that now!
Dorothy Anger
Dorothy, Yes. These little encounters really do feel like we are part of a community – and I think we are mostly. Unfortunately, there are some that are trying very hard to quash the notion that it is good to care about other people.
So many wonderful memories of coffee syrup and cabinets. Thanks for reminding me of these Rhode Island specialties!
Sheila, Yes – coffee syrup, coffee milk, coffee ice cream, coffee cabinets – all embedded in our psyches!
The only ice cream I prefer over chocolate is coffee! Not always available nowadays.
Vicki, I usually order coffee ice cream or, if possible a combination of coffee and chocolate. The best sundae is coffee ice cream and chocolate sauce – maybe with some walnuts!
Vicki,
I can usually find coffee ice cream when I occasionally go out to buy it. Being an acknowledged former Rhode Islander, I can categorically say that Chocolate is an OK substitute!
Marian, the first thing that I noticed was your reference to Star Market which is where I met you last summer when I was doing a wine demonstration. I LOVE coffee and knowing the history of it where it relates to RI is terrific!
Karen, So nice to hear from you. Yes! the very same Star Market! Coffee flavor is a big thing in Rhode Island and R.I. expatriates!
Hi marion. I enjoy your little vignettes so much. I can relate to being short and not being able to reach top shelves.
The other day I was in the dollar store. When I was finished checking out, my bundle was quite heavy, and I carry a cane. As I was going out the door, which was not an automatic door, the man who had checked out in front of me was waiting for me and holding the doors open for me. There are some wonderful people in this world.
I hope you are well. Love, Sandra
Sandra, I think that most people are wonderful – the problem is that we hear more about the really not-nice people, who, unfortunately, are taking up much of the headlines these days. Love, Marian
As a kid, Dannon coffee and prune yogurts were my favorites! I will now search out the coffee flavor, but I doubt there will be a resurgence of prune… I am one of those tall people who often help more height-challenged shoppers get products off the higher shelves. Marion, thanks for this vignette, which, like Proust’s madeleine, brought back sweet memories.
Andrea, I don’t know if I ever had Prune yogurt – but you have inspired me to try it!
Asking for help is a good thing to do. Never know what the encounter will bring.
I have learned that asking for help is a good thing. Most people are very happy to assist and these encounters can lead to wonderful little experiences. The hardest part of asking for help is admitting that I need help. But, I am rapidly getting over this reaction because I know it can possibly lead to a lovely connection.
Hi Marian, I loved your coffee, cabinet story! I always wondered about the “cabinet” back story. My highschool and college summers were spent in part as a soda jerk (on the South Shore), but a few times I was asked to make a cabinet. Memories are so important, and you’re so good at jogging them!
Jan, The ‘cabinet’ explanation feels a little out-there, but since I found several sites that explain the origin of the name I guess it must be true -maybe!
A good story about people communicating face to face in these modern times. Some people say that there are no coincidences.
Yes! just asking for help can often lead to a lovely encounter. I don’t know if there are or are not “coincidences.” I do know, unless you talk to someone you can’t ever know if there is a hidden coincidence somewhere.
Great story and great research!! When I first moved from Rhode Island to the DC area, I ordered coffee syrup from Eclipse by the case!
Les,
I have an old GLASS bottle of Eclipse Coffee Syrup that still is about 1/3 full. It may be 30-40 years old. I have no intention of opening it, not knowing what could happen. I don’t have the heart to throw it out!
I too have an old bottle of Eclipse coffee syrup in my refrigerator. Every time I look at it, it brings back wonderful memories. Coffee ice cream is still my all time favorite and in Florida Publix carries the best coffee ice cream called Barney’s coffee ice cream. It is a Publix brand so very creamy and delicious. I always have one in my freezer. I must admit I make a hot fudge sundae everyday with whipped cream and walnuts and a maraschino cherry on top. Due to current health standards I am afraid the maraschino will have to go.
My RI memories are far reaching and everyday I am reminded of something wonderful from my years living there.
I am also height challenged and often ask a fellow shopper to help reach something on an upper shelf. None have been as interesting as your encounter but none the less very kind and accommodating and helpful. Always much appreciated. There are wonderful people everywhere if you just speak up and are friendly and offer a smile.
Thanks for your sweet reminiscence.
You too were a wonderful fond memory from my childhood on Rugby Street. I remember our club where you made badges out of a cut ruler and macaroni alphabet letters glued with the name of the club.
So simple but unforgettable.
I will be 84 soon and have such vivid memories. Luckily we are both still in good health and enjoying life to the fullest. ❤️
Eleanor, It is always great to hear from you. I really appreciate your comment that ‘there are wonderful people everywhere.’ But, if we don’t try to make connections we will never really know it. So touching and funny that you remember the badges that I made out of alphabet macaroni. I remember doing this. Don’t remember the name of the club – do you? How did I cut the ruler?
Marion – always good to hear from you and to take a moment to enjoy your writings/vignettes. Refreshing reads when the world is at such odds. Be well.
Kathy, So great to hear from you. I miss your being in the old Cape neighborhood. Lately, I have been thinking and writing down darkish thoughts about what is happening to us as individuals and the country – and the world. I decided it was time for something more lighthearted. It’s what I need and I think lots of other people are craving at this very difficult time.
Awesome. Love everything coffee. I love these encounters-had 3 at the no kings demo.
I totally believe in synchronicity too! Hugs
Coffee is the best! I too am somewhat in awe of those ‘synchronicity’ happenings. They’ve been happening to me a lot lately – maybe because I am more and more inclined to try to connect with people!
Dear Marion,
I just loved your little story. It is amazing how a serendipitous moment in time can be so evocative and special and bring back so many memories in a short period of time ~ if we take time to be receptive to those moments!
Keep up the beautiful and inspiring stories that we all treasure!
Warmly,
Tatyana Goldwyn
Tatyana, Yes, I totally agree. We MUST take the time to be receptive to those precious moments and precious people. It is what keeps us human, compassionate and sane!
When I first came to California I went to an ice cream store and asked for a coffee milkshake. The person behind the counter said “You want me to pour coffee into your milkshake?” So I had to explain what I wanted. He thought I was weird.
Anneta, Why is that having coffee flavored drinks is such an anomaly outside of Rhode Island? Must be something very special about R.I.!!
Marian,
In this strange time filled with anxiety, it is wonderful that you remind me of the human connections and good things (yes, including coffee things) in life. Thank you.
I like to write about these simple occurrences. They remind me as well that there are a lot of very nice people all around us.
I am not a coffee drinker, but I enjoyed reading your Star Market encounter and coffee vignette!
These days, encounters like yours are things that sustain me. We need kindness and humanity, more now than before.
I too am sustained and bolstered by these random encounters. Knowing that they can happen if I reach out, is one of the things that helps me look forward to each day. Thanks for writing.
Love your story. I’m also short and frequently ask for assistance reaching groceries. People have been so kind and receptive. By the way Trader Joe’s has a coffee ice cream sandwich that is terrific.
I have always found people are very nice and helpful. Being short presents the opportunity to learn this in regular, everyday encounters.
I can’t wait to try Trader Joe’s coffee ice cream sandwich!
I’m an Eclipse man, myself. “You’ll smack your lips, when it’s Eclipse.” Though I do remember that Autocrat had a bird on the label and their tag line was “A swallow will tell you.” I was so addicted to coffee milk as a child that I could not drink plain milk. My dear mother would put the syrup in an empty pill bottle for me to take to school (Meshanticut Park Elementary!). I was so embarrassed by my dependency on the syrup that I would “syrup-ticiously” pour the Eclipse into the milk carton under the cafeteria table while chatting with my friends. Just reminiscing about it brings the flavor back–I can almost taste it! By the way, whose ideas was it to give kids caffeinated sugar concentrate?
Wonderful! I don’t think anyone was thinking about caffeine back then. It just made milk sweet and desirable! Thanks for this lovely memory!