Newspapers do it, TV stations do it. Websites do it. Organizations do it. If they do it, then I can do it too! That is – write my very own Year-in-Review. Of course, my review is pretty limited. It relates mainly to what has happened to me. It does involve national and international events, but more about my reactions to them – not a broad commentary on their impact. So, the biggest part of my review is about personal stuff.
A couple of happy, big family happenings. My older granddaughter became a senior in college, grandson graduated from high school and is now a university freshman, and my younger granddaughter had her bat mitzvah. She will be in high school in 2025. These kids are thoughtful and kind.
I have had a few minor health issues – including achy hips – but fortunately have gotten through everything. However, these episodes make me even more aware of the passage of time and the challenges that arise as each year of getting older forges ahead. I clearly acknowledge that I have no control over this. In the meantime, I have lunch with friends, do Zoom reunions with my old South Providence Girls, continue to write, and spend wonderful hours with family.
Unfortunately, a number of people I care about have had serious medical diagnoses, lost relatives, or died. The rest are achieving exactly what I am achieving – getting up each morning and plodding along.
In terms of my writing, I have made good headway on my next book. This one is about my mother who was born in 1908 and died a little more than twenty years ago. She was in many ways an ordinary woman for her generation, growing up in the Roaring Twenties and managing through the Great Depression. What was unique about her was her positive and progressive views of life. She believed that women should have their own money to spend as they see fit, and not have to ask anyone else for some cash. Writing about my mom has been a joyful challenge and I hope my final manuscript gives her the respect and recognition she deserves. In the past year, I have managed to post an article on my blog almost every month. This is the last one for 2024. People still tell me that they find some comfort in the things I write about, so I am very inspired to keep at it.
On a broader level, this year’s political scene has ended up being a significant downer for me. The real-life conditions that I had focused on for decades, such as access to women’s reproductive health care, have become increasingly at risk. I am dismayed at the appalling backslide after so many years of human rights progress. Occurrences around the world and here in the States have made me worry that antisemitism will again become overt – if it hasn’t already. What I experienced as a child is nothing compared to what others in Europe went through so many decades ago, but a life-long, under-the-radar concern about my safety became embedded at an early age.
However, in spite of these last dark, ominous thoughts, I know that the only thing I can do is keep doing what I have been doing: advocating for my personal ‘causes,’ writing about things that are meaningful to others, and caring about the people I love.
So, there you have it: My Year-in-Review.
Dear Marion,
Happy Chanukah!”
I have been thinking all you and your family all morning because in my head is still your Dad’s song he wrote for this holiday; the song is implanted in my brain. Hope you and your family are well. this year has been hard because of health issues but I am turning 80in 2 weeks!! Can’t believe it. Have a healthy and happy new year. Love, ANNETA
Anneta,
Yes, we still sing Happy, Happy, Chanukah every year! So glad you have it in your brain! Sorry to hear about your health issues. Hope they resolve as well as the can. Yes, this aging thing never stops until you know when! Love,
Marian
If you have a cell phone # please send it to me and I will send you a video.
Love,’
Marian
A delightful and easily relatable post, as always!
Keep them coming!
Love them👍
Ellie Starr
Thanks Ellie. I was delayed in getting this essay written but it popped into my head yesterday and I just wrote it down. Fondly, Marian
Hola Leah ~
“A significant downer …” Nicely put 🙂
I’m wondering ~ as you write about the life of your mother, which I assume may include you as little girl, what advice would you give your younger self?
Keep doing what you’ve been doing as it inspires others. Good luck on your next book!
Thank you , Marian, for your always thoughtful & gently supportive blog. Wishing you & your family a very happy Hanukkah & healthy times for ‘25! Simone
Thank you , Marian, for your always thoughtful & gently supportive blog. Wishing you & your family a very happy Hanukkah & healthy times for ‘25!
Simone, So lovely to hear from you. I think about your mom a lot. I am about 2/3 done with the book about my mother and her passed-on quote from cousin Sonny represents prominent and meaningful theme. Hope you are well. Fondly, Marian
As always, Marian, welcomingly honest.
Love,
Paula
I try hard not to sugar-coat what it is like to get older. It is a difficult but also ‘educational’ process. Nothing can really explain it until we get there and it is real. It is only then that we understand and appreciate what aging is all about. Love, Marian
Marian: Slam a door on 2024! Let’s all jive in 2025! I’m already looking forward to reading your book about your mother!
Les, A happy and forward thinking New Year to you!!
As always, wonderful. I g ave way worse thoughts to add so will leave them out!
Hope to see you soon and wish you and your family every good thing.
Happy Holidays, luv, Donna
Looking forward to read your new book Marian. For some strange reason, my “downer” has been my perceived similarity of what is happening with what I have read about “the roaring twenties” and years beyond. I try to learn from you to put my focus on what I can do.
Happy holidays and the new year.
Javad
Javad,
Thanks for your thoughtful comment. For me, the only way to move into the future is to focus on what I may be able to accomplish.
Marian
Your essays, filled with wisdom and good humor, mean so much to me, and I thoroughly enjoy each one of them. They help me make sense of this chaotic world. I hope to see more of your writing in the years to come. Wishing you a blissful and healthy New Year!
Always glad to hear from a fellow, long-lived alum.
My comment is about the end of things as we know them. I have had to say goodbye to 6 beautiful women this year! Fellow travelers like you with whom I have fallen in step because of an event or school or work or over a lifetime of just liking each other. Each departure has been so painful. Carl’s and my matron of honor from pneumonia! My dearest confessor from a brain aneurism, my high school friend from myasthenia gravis, others from leukemia, ALS! The list of exotic diseases is appalling! Where do they come from? What happened to heart disease and cancer? How do you even get those diseases? I feel guilty about being well at 86. Maybe I am only momentarily well or festering with one of those appalling conditions that will soon rear its ugly head. I know I won’t live forever. Last woman standing is no fun but I prefer it to a terminal condition. Of course, life itself is a terminal condition. This loss of contemporaries is a part of being old I was not aware of though upon mentioning it, everyone begins to nod that it is quite common. It is life meeting death. It is collateral damage to long friendships that have endured for decades upon decades.I have no advice but to live life as fully as possible by your own honest definition. There is no escape.I wish you each and all peaceful passage, and if not now then to create a life as well lived as your definition came make it.